I believe supervision exists in the real world as a clinical process, where supervisees are impacted through positive supervision and by encouraging professional growth and helping supervisees to discover therapy is more a way of being then a way of doing. 

Virginia Satir returned to the University of Chicago School of Social Administration (our shared alma mater), to receive a well-deserved honor, she shared this valuable insight. She said, “Everything I learned, I learned after I left here”. It taught me a meaningful lesson; the real learning experience is in the therapy room and being fully present with the client. Learning the valuable uniqueness of each client, that one size or theory does not fit all and most importantly to fully understand the depth of the human experience at it applies, even more, around sexual issues and concerns. 

This message guides how I provide therapeutic services to clients and how I approach supervision. Being present with my supervisees, encouraging them to describe what they experience as they engage a client around their sexual issues and describing the intersection of those issues with who the client is as a person and how sexual issues affect their life. While I can’t be in the room with my supervisees, they are able to discuss their experience and engagement with their clients. This method heightens and deepens their insights into the human sexual experience of their clients. 

Taking this to heart, I have come to see my role as supervisor with supervisees is a shared mutual discovery. This mutual discovery exists between the supervisee and their client as well. Helping supervisees explore a willingness to learn from their client experiences whether it is successful or a failure. Therapy is a process and takes time. Client resistance or reluctance is a factor supervisees can learn to work with. I believe modelling myself as therapist, a teacher, a business consultant, supporter and evaluator. These roles are spelled out in detail within the contract my supervisees agree to and sign. Providing a structured beginning establishes a level of security and helps eliminate any apprehensiveness about this costly process of supervision.